2008

So this is 2008. Once again the year starts with a low note. Hopefully it will go up in key, but I doubt it. Christmas itself was not too bad, it could have been much worse. All the essentials were there, we had a tree and decorations and Santa brought presents. We ate ham and casseroles and other things usually found in Finnish tables at Christmas. I was afraid that DH would make a scene at some point, but he did not. So I’m hoping it felt like the real thing for DS. I could not get in the spirit this time, but that’s not what is important.

Oh how I wish that what I meant in the last post was that I have to tough it out until next summer. Oh no. What I meant was that he wants to stay in that school as long as he can. Which means five and a half more years. That’s a long time, and I can not see me staying for that long.

Right now I’m afraid of weekends. I do not want to be afraid. Some weekends have gone by nicely, but not all of them. Things usually are not too bad if DH stays sober, but when he gets drunk things change. And then it’s not fun to be there anymore. He can get very nasty.

If it weren’t for DS, I would be long gone by now. I would not take this one more day. But DS makes things complicated. And I have to put my needs aside. I’m just hoping that one day I find a place of my own where I can move – and it does not take over five years of this hell.

Right now I have little energy to do anything. Everything just seems so hopeless right now. How can I get out of this situation? Once again, luckily I do have DS. He is the only thing keeping me alive right now. And that’s why I will not consider leaving without him.

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3 responses to “2008

  1. 5 years? FIVE YEARS?

    He’ll get over it.

    You’re the parent, you make the decisions and quite frankly, he’ll get over it Honest. I went to something like…gosh, um…7 schools before college. I guess each time it was scary, but it never occurred to me to want to stay at any of them, no matter how comfy I was.

    Maybe focusing on the positive aspects of changing schools will help, y’know, new friends, more to do, living in the city…?

  2. Oro, that’s just what I was going to do. But then DS said that he will rather stay with DH if going with me means that he has to change schools. I’m not risking it, because I can not imagine going anywhere without DS. No way.

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